Deeley also remembers Stephen “tWitch” Boss and the legacy he left behind, telling he was “one of the most genuinely charming, gentle giants of a man you could ever hope to meet”

Cat Deeley (left) and Allison Holker Boss. PHOTO: MICHAEL BUCKNER/VARIETY VIA GETTY; MICHAEL TULLBERG/GETTY

Cat Deeley continues to be impressed by Allison Holker Boss’s strength on set of So You Think You Can Dance.

As season 18 of the hit competition show begins, Deeley, 47, tells PEOPLE she finds Allison’s positive attitude inspiring after the 2022 death of her husband Stephen “tWitch” Boss.

“I believe that when faced with loss and tragedy, one way to cope is by empathizing with others who may be going through similar experiences. By channeling the pain and heartbreak into something that can benefit others, you can find a way to turn a devastating situation into something positive. Otherwise, the grief can consume you entirely.”

Allison Holker Boss and Stephen “tWitch” Boss.RODIN ECKENROTH/WIREIMAGE

Stephen died suddenly at age 40 on Dec. 13, 2022. He and Allison met on SYTYCD in 2010 and got married in December 2013. The two share three children together: Weslie Renae, 15, Maddox Laurel, 7, and Zaia, 3.

Deeley expressed hope that Allison’s presence on the judges’ panel for the newest season of SYTYCD would spark meaningful conversations about mental health and grief among viewers. Allison, 36, who previously competed on the show, brings a unique perspective to the judging role. Similarly, Stephen’s appearances as a judge on previous seasons (15 and 17) contribute to the diverse panel.

By having Allison, someone who has experienced the challenges and triumphs of the competition firsthand, as part of the judging team, Deeley believes the show can serve as a platform to address important issues surrounding mental health and grief. Through their collective experiences and insights, Deeley anticipates that their involvement will help foster open dialogue and provide support for those grappling with similar struggles.

“I truly admire what she does – managing her three kids, balancing work, and being open about her experiences, especially when it comes to discussing her late husband,” the actress reflects. “Honestly, I’m not sure if I could handle it all the way she does. But what’s truly commendable is her willingness to have those conversations and not shy away from discussing her journey.”

She emphasizes the importance of open dialogue, stating, “Moving forward requires all of us to engage in honest conversations. The more we talk, the better it is for everyone involved. It helps us realize that we’re not alone, that there’s support out there, and that even the biggest problems can be tackled one step at a time.”

In essence, the actress underscores the power of communication in fostering understanding, support, and resilience in the face of adversity.

Stephen “tWitch” Boss (left) and Cat Deeley at the Teen Choice Awards in 2010.

Deeley fondly recalls the uplifting presence Stephen brought to the set, reflecting on how his personal journey epitomized the spirit and mission of the series. She reminisces about the moments when he faced challenges but persisted with unwavering determination, embodying resilience and a refusal to succumb to obstacles.

Stephen’s story served as a poignant reminder of the show’s core values, inspiring both participants and viewers alike with his perseverance and tenacity. Despite setbacks, he remained steadfast in his resolve, epitomizing the ethos of never giving up and continually striving for improvement.

In honoring Stephen’s memory, Deeley emphasizes the enduring impact of his resilience and the profound resonance of his journey, which continues to inspire others to persevere in the face of adversity.

“He was such a good example of having a passion but not necessarily being technically trained,” she recalls. “He tried out three times. He tried out, he got ‘no’ twice, and came back. And he didn’t win, but he went on to have this amazing career — he was on Ellen [DeGeneres’s talk show], he was in Magic Mike. He was also one of the most genuinely charming, gentle giants of a man you could ever hope to meet.”

As season 18 unfolds, Deeley holds hope that contestants will glean valuable lessons from Stephen’s journey and embrace the transformative experience that the show offers. She encourages participants to fully immerse themselves in the journey, embracing each moment with presence and mindfulness.

By observing Stephen’s resilience and determination, contestants can learn the importance of staying focused, persevering through challenges, and cherishing every step of their own journey. Deeley hopes that they will draw inspiration from Stephen’s example, allowing his spirit to guide them as they navigate the highs and lows of the competition.

Ultimately, Deeley’s wish is for contestants to embrace the journey wholeheartedly, recognizing the growth and self-discovery that can be found in every performance and every experience on the SYTYCD stage.

“Enjoy every single moment,” she says. “Think of yourself as a little old man or a little old lady, and what will you want to remember to tell your grandchildren?”